Most of what I post on this blog has a lot to do with what's going on in my daily life. I mean, let's be honest, my day-to-day routine isn't all that inspiring so when something is a bit more fun, it usually graces the pages of this site. Recently, I had the pleasure of sharing a girl's weekend in honor of a
very dear friend getting married next month. I've known this girl since I was 14 years old. We have shared so many memories together - college acceptances, high school boyfriends, collegiate adventures, first jobs and engagements. And now I am beyond excited to stand by her as she is married to the man of her dreams. But before she could walk down the aisle, we wanted to celebrate our dear friend with a bangin' bachelorette party! We had a wonderful weekend on Long Island and it was just what she wanted. And in the world of weddings with ever-expanding responsibilities, budgets and expectations, the bachelorette party can be tricky. I've figured out a few things having helped throw two for good friends.
Know your pal: There's nothing worse than ordering a stripper for a conservative gal or bringing all beer to a wine-o's party. If you're in the wedding, you have every right to delicately ask your friend what type of fete she would enjoy. Maybe it's a rager on a club floor in Vegas or a low key weekend at a rented house on Long Island, but knowing this will definitely help ensure your party is a hit!
Location, location, location: While some may be able to jet across the country, Atlantic or Southern hemisphere for a long weekend, most are typically not afforded this luxury with time or the finances to back it. And you don't have to go to Vegas or the DR to have a good time. Pick a location that's attainable for the group. In most cases, it's nice if a large percentage of the group doesn't need to fly to said location; in some cases it may be unavoidable though.
Don't break the bank: Unless the attendees all have large amounts of disposable income, which let's be honest, isn't all that common for a group of twenty-something women, it's smart to keep the budget under control. A few splurges - maybe a limo or a private vineyard tour are great, but the whole celebration doesn't have to be about caviar and Dom Perignon. It's smart to have a caucus with the group of planners (typically bridesmaids) to agree on a reasonable budget for the group. Maybe its $300 and maybe its $1000. Just pick something and stick with it. Oh, it helps to communicate this tactfully to the attendees so they know what to expect.
Track it: The ether is a perfect way to keep track of any logistics or aspects of planning. Google docs is a great tool - you can keep track of things like attendees, contact info, transportation plans for all guests, ideas for favors, flowers and menus.
It's about her: The number one thing to keep in mind is this is her celebration, not yours. If she loves wineries and you're more of a beer and pretzels kinda girl, go with the flow and revel in her obsession with cabernets and pinots. She may be a wild child or she may be more into a phallic-free celebration - just keep her wishes in the back of your mind as you are planning and reveling in girly fun times.
Seeing her light up with happiness, celebrating with her besties is all that any gal needs to enjoy this time! Not to mention it's a great opportunity to meet some other friends attending the wedding. No need to endlessly embarrass her; this isn't sorority hazing, it's a celebration of girlfriends so raise your glass in a toast to your friend, smile and have fun!
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